Mendhi Audlin 0:00
Greetings friends, it's what if Wednesday, and it is also a brand new year. So today we're talking about taking big bold actions. In fact, if you want to expand your impact in 2023 bold action is a pretty good way to get there. And so I am excited today I have a special guests with me. I'm going to introduce her in just a moment. I'm Mendhi Audlin, founder of The What If UP Club, and we are here every Wednesday with what if Wednesday to share your share of some ideas, some tools, some strategies for getting from where you are to where you want to go. So creating that, that vision and then actually living into it. And full disclosure, when 2023 rolled around, I actually I was not super excited about 2023. I don't know about you, I think I have some scarring left from 2020 where I got all excited about it started.
And then like 2020 So ever since then I'm finding that when New Year's rolls around, I don't have quite the enthusiasm that I used to because I'm kind of like, okay, am I gonna get excited and then get let down. So I don't know, ever have that happen. But not this year. Two things happen this year that turn that around for me. One is the incredible visioning workshop that we did on New Year's Day. So if you missed that, it is in our YouTube channel, it's in our community, so you can access that. And if you didn't do it, it's a great way to kick off the year and to get excited about what 2023 holds for you to create that vision. Second thing I did that got me super inspired was I went to New York City and I hung out the afternoon with my very good friend, our special guest today, Robin Hackett.
Robin Hackett 1:40
Hi, Mindy, thank you so much for joining me to kick off the year. This is so exciting. Absolutely. Absolutely. So bold action. This is your idea. So I love this idea. Yeah, talk about bold action. What does it mean to you? Why is it important to you? And how has it impacted you? Oh, my gosh, that's so many questions all in, or just whatever. You know, I think when we talk about bold action, I don't realize that I'm taking a bold action when I'm taking the bold action. But other people point out to me, my that's a bold action you're doing.
So my bold action this past year was I moved to New York City from Texas.
And I felt like because I was a certain age, oh my gosh, that's a big thing that you're doing. How could you do that at this age, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But I think for me, I was feeling stagnant where I was, and I'll use the term that I heard before divinely discontent. Like, I had visions, I had dreams of what I wanted. And I didn't think that it could happen in Texas.
So
I kept saying to the universe, Okay, what's next? I don't know what's next. I have no idea. What am I doing what's next. And lo and behold, a friend of mine calls me here from New York and says, Robin, I have this apartment, it has a second bedroom, moved to New York. Those are his words move to New York. And so being that's, you know, that's what happened for me, just those simple words. And so of course, I didn't immediately say, Oh, yes, I'll do that. But I knew somehow inside of me that that was the answer that it was time for me to, to make that leap. And if I wasn't going to, for some reason, in my mind, if I wasn't going to do it, when I did it, then I felt like, oh my gosh, when am I gonna do it? Right. So
when in the past when that's happened for me when a door has opened like that something that's just so straight in my face move to New York. I mean, how can you deny that move to New York? So I sat with it, I went back and forth. It's kind of like when I moved to Colorado, years ago, when you said Rob and moved to Colorado? Oh my gosh, I'm frightened. And of course with you, we would have upped it like well, you know, what if bla bla bla bla bla bla bla. So that's an important aspect. And for me, I start to get like, these divine inspirations or impulses from the universe that say, Okay, call this person right now, do this, I did that. So I got in action, but I didn't make up actions to do I actually listened. So meditation and being quiet I listened. And in meditation people don't realize that that's when answers come through. If you're just sitting, you hear the universe go Oh, call this person or do this next, or bla bla bla bla bla. But a lot of times we don't get quiet to wait for that to happen. You don't so I want to ask you about that. I have to tell you and same thing happened for me in the sense that we had a one of our members, mastermind calls we do the first Wednesday of every month for members of The What If UP Club, I'm in this call facilitating this call
Mendhi Audlin 5:00
Oh, and at the end, I'm like, Honey, it was really interesting. This was November 2020. So this was really interesting. A third of the people on that call, one of the things that was nudging at them was a cross country move on, like cross country move came up.
Oddly, you know, frequently in this call and the very next morning, two things happen. One, I get an email saying, you know, your property in Colorado where you live is now worth like.
Shawn is on this, you know, Zillow, you know, hot list for here's a property that just came up in rural upstate Northern New York. And we're right.
So we like we literally made the same bolt enough exactly the same. But we made a poll decisions, you know, that day are we do we want to do this, let's write for it. And then of course, it takes some time to put all those pieces into place. But you're talking about like, the meditation, the inspiration, the intuition, right? What do you think stops us? You know, maybe we've got that divine discontent? Maybe we've got the intuitive nudge? Or what are the things you think? Or what is the biggest thing that you think prevents people from taking those bold leaps? Well, I think, um, I guess I, I'd say for me, you know, we have those thoughts of what are other people going to think like, oh, you're crazy. That's a crazy thing to do. So I think that's one thing that could stop me. But I've lived long enough to, to become very well acquainted with the yes, in my body.
Robin Hackett 6:41
Like, there's this feeling that comes in that's like, you're supposed to do this. And you're gonna do this frightened. But you're supposed to do this. Yes, yes. Well, and honestly, that's one of the things as we do one of up circles, it's one of the things that we teach when people practice this on a regular basis. One of the benefits of being in a wonderful circle, when people are sharing ideas and possibilities is getting bombarded with ideas that you can't possibly do all of them. So you get really good at sifting through and finding the yes or no, what is the and what is the Yes, yes, yes. I love this. Do it. frightened?
Mendhi Audlin 7:22
Yes, yes. Yes. So in the comments, I'd love to hear what are the things that you find are obstacles to you for taking bold action? I know, for me, I think this is, this is a behavior. So it'd be interesting to kind of drill down and see what's the thinking behind it. But I will get myself so busy, that I don't have an opportunity to even really sit with it. So for me, the busyness can very often be the distraction from the thing that is really calling me I'm too busy running late. So creating that space for the meditation, the creating the space to listen taking the walks, or whatever it is. It could be. It could actually be a walker was just thinking that because they don't they feel like in meditation, their mind starts chattering more than anything, they can do things. So three tips if you are saying okay, here's Robin Hackett's best practices for, for listening. And then not just listening, but also because I think a lot of us, we feel the nudge and we kind of know, there's something that's calling to us. But taking that bold step, sometimes there's a bit of resistance to that. What was your advice? Well, my advice with this is that eventually you have to trust yourself. You only have you. You have to trust yourself and you have to. For me, I always look back well. Hmm. This feels like when I moved to Colorado. Hmm, this feels like when I've moved to Texas. Hmm, this feels like when I moved to New York the first time when I was a young woman. It was like all steam ahead. Yes, yes, yes. Yes. And I was scared the whole time. So it's like keep it's take action.
Robin Hackett 9:09
That's a big thing. So listen, yeah, listen, see what comes in. Take action. So that take action means that for me, like I called the apartment that I'm in here in New York, like most people would say, you'll never find an apartment there. It's too hard of a bug. It's too expensive.
So I ended up just picking up the phone and calling a friend of mine, not even for an apartment because the apartment was already presented to me but it sounds like Well, how was I? How am I going to make a living so I called a friend of mine that I used to work with in New York and we talked and then she said oh, by the way, I have an apartment in the city that I own bla bla bla you can come and you know it live in that apartment. So I followed. I followed calling her but then she gave me a tidbit. And then you know later on I got an inspiration to call this particular school to teach private last
Since and it's like the woman was waiting for me to call her like the door just open. And she's like, come on.
It's really taking those actions, taking those actions. And everybody has to do what? I don't want to use the word save. You know, some people say, Oh, I have to have $5,000 in the bank before I move or $10,000. You've got to do what what feels good for you in order to make that move. But you still have to keep moving. If it says yes. And your body feels Yes, keep doing the action. So yeah, I love it. Meditation. Listening. Yeah. Listening, action, taking the action, and then keep taking action. Yeah, I think it makes me think of, you know, the movie hitch. Or it's like, here's how you pick up the women. You listen and respond, listen.
Mendhi Audlin 10:55
Good enough advice for other things as well. Yes. Respond, and then keep doing that. And keep doing that. I love it. So I thank you so much for some fabulous comments coming in biggest issue is a fear of failure for some, I have an answer to that. What's your answer to that? The answer to that is like I once said to my mom, because I was contemplating making a move. And I said, What if I move and it's wrong, she goes, Well, then move again.
To where you are, whatever it is. Move again. And so So what did they say fear of making a wrong decision? Hmm, take? Boy, you know, what if? What if there are no wrong decisions? What if it's just you do what you do? And and, you know, what I love is like, what if we could take whatever we do and use it for good? I mean, isn't that what the spiritual journey is all about? Is being able to take what's around us and use it for good, right?
I think there's also what what I love about this, this insight is there's also a level of trust here a level of trusting that intuition. So how do you discern what's intuition? What's guidance versus what's maybe fear based or OT TOS or conditioning? Okay, so intuition and inspiration is expanding.
Robin Hackett 12:23
There is an expansive energy that comes with it that feels good. And
anything else is
contracting? Yes. It doesn't feel something feels off. It doesn't feel good. So a friend of mine used to talk about
the hell yes, like someone says,
you know, I'm going to, I think I want to go do such and such, well, if it's just I think, or it's kind of like an I don't know, or is it? Hell? Yes. Oh, wow, that feels good. Oh, that seems really exciting to do that. So inspiration is expanding, and it feels good. And anything else is contracts. And you kind of are like, Oh, I don't know that. I want it. So last week, each week in The What If UP Club, we're doing challenges starting with this new year. So like it's, every single week we do this was the first week with the new year, and we did a release ceremony that's in the INR on YouTube, as well and in our community. So we did this release ceremony. And the thing that identified for myself, that ties into this is
Mendhi Audlin 13:31
letting go what I've chosen to let go of I'm stepping into focus, this is my work for 20. Oh, but what I'm letting go of is that second guessing of you know, so I feel the calling, I know what I'm supposed to do. And when I'm in that zone, when I'm prayed up, when I'm taking the hike when I'm feeling good, I get super excited about it. But in those moments when I'm tired or in those moments where you know, something happened, and now my energy is off. That's when I start to second guess. And so I think you know, just in terms of is this divine inspiration? Is it expansive? Am I in a an expansive state right now as I think about it, or am I in that state of I'm looking at okay, where's the money coming from? Or how am I going to do all this the house? Because that's the constricted energy and
that's what if downing Downing? Yes, they constrictive energy. So I love it like this. Oh mg my ladies.
Robin Hackett 14:30
You as I said, Take Action gal I so admire that about you, the universe comes up to meet you as well because of your actions. That's a great point. That is a very, very, I was just talking with someone about that because in the past, when I've wanted to move to a new apartment, but it's gonna cost more money, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And people would say to me, Well, how are you going to afford that? And I'd say the universe always meets me with new inspiration of ways to make more money to to
Have you put into that new rent that I'm going to have to pay? So, yes, the universe does meet you in a most amazing way. The other thing that I want to share is, once you've made your decision, whatever that decision is, share with people that you that you trust.
I think a lot of things happen in community. None of this would have happened, had I not reached out to people and said, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, I'm thinking of doing this. And they say, Oh, why don't you do this? Or why don't you that it's the same as what if upping it's the whole? What if up in concept, it happens in community, and energy happens in community and things happen in community? And people say, Well, I know this person, when you get there, call them blah, blah, blah. So really important. It's not in isolation. There's someone that popped up Monday and said, the feelings are what you move with? Yeah. So it's a person that a little bit more want to
Mendhi Audlin 16:01
move with, like, we were talking about how, you know, you go into your meditation, you feel that guidance, you feel that I'd like the combination of the Divine discontent, and also the intuition that moves us beyond that. Yes. So to what degree is it what you're feeling? And to what degree is it? You know, your mind saying, Okay, I'm on board with that?
Robin Hackett 16:24
Well, for me, because everyone's different, I'm a heart centered person, I've always gone with this, right here. And then I think about the logistics, and then this pops in again. And then logistics that it? So for me, it's a balance of of the of both. Okay? I love your story, because it's a very example of okay, I want to move to New York. And then here's the, here's the, here's the housing that's taken care of. So now you're on to the next thing, and then better opportunity or different opportunity for these different things are showing up because you're taking action, but it's not like it all lands all at once it's unfolding in front of us good thing that's scary, because you know, then you go, Oh, am I really supposed to do this? Oh, my gosh, I did that. But there's something that just keeps for me, my experience was something that just keeps pulling me forward. So I'm not sure if the person's asking, you know, the move with feelings, because a lot of people are like, Oh, that's crazy. But that's what it is.
Mendhi Audlin 17:31
That's what it is.
And I know, because Robin, and I have been mastermind buddies for a long time. And I know when we wake up, one of the things I love about being in one circle with you is that that's your go to is is the emotion and the feeling and the being in the presence and my go to is usually the strategy.
So together, I mean, you speak about community, but together it makes for a really, you know, a balanced way of decision making and being able to trust in those nudges that that lead us forward. Oh, I like that. The nudges Yes. Does that lead us forward? Yeah. Because it is the nudge can mean for different people can show up in different ways. I like to, I'm learning that I don't have to figure out the whole road. I'm learning that I can just see. Okay, what's mine to do right now? Like, let's see the vision. I'm excited about the vision, and then I don't need to know all the how I just need to know my next, you know, right, right, left
Robin Hackett 18:33
the gas or turn on the brakes, or whatever it is, which, for me, I'd be I mean, I wouldn't be anywhere in the world if I had fear of failure. Mm hmm. Right, going back to what that person was saying. It's okay to fail. It's actually part of life. And it might seem like, oh, but what if I move across the country and it's the wrong move? Well, you can readjust
Mendhi Audlin 18:58
just whatever that is for you. And if that means you move back, and some people might think, well, that's crazy. Hey, it's just life. Well, and you know, I know the name of my book is what if it all goes right? And yes, what it means to me in that context is, you know, what, if the whole move across, even if you end up moving right back? What if there was something that happened in that process led you to greater clarity of where you're where you want to be? Longer term? So what if it's not a wrong decision? It's just a decision that led you maybe not to the end game you thought but it's leading you somewhere that you wouldn't have been otherwise? Right, right. trusting the process trusting the process. So I want to do a plug for for your fabulous book is called me be pumped this up here so people can see it. It's called the creative view. This is by Robin Hackett who is a singer songwriter extraordinaire. She also is a screenwriter. She writes fiction, she writes nonfiction. This one is the one I read in December and I love it one. Thank you for this
shout out for what if upping because you do talk about what if bumping in here on you. And I also love this for anyone that you know, who may be like wanting to do something that's bold and taking those big actions, but they're, they're nervous about it. They're feeling like, you know, like you said, Robin, like, I don't know if I can make a living as a musician, like go to New York City and be a musician or,
you know, that sounds like, you know, our normal culture would say, Oh, that's really risky. That's, you know, do you dare follow those? Those nudges? And this is a book that tells a story of someone who did. And here you are, not who you are. It was a bold move, wasn't it when I was 23? is pretty much when Yes, I made my first big bold move. Yeah, yeah. Oh, and this is this is great. So I often tell myself that this is not a question for today, Alex, when I feel overwhelmed by the plan, this is not a question for that today. Alex, this is a question for this is for the vision of the vision. And that's such a beautiful thing in terms of that's why we have the vision so that we can align with it and embody it, right decisions from the embodiment of the vision that we're stepping into. Yes. And you cannot, going back to the book, you can get that book on the Amazon. Yes. And please, please go check it out. It's now that I think about I think I should go back and read it myself. Yeah, it's really good. It's a great, it's, it's very inspirational in terms of, especially if you're sort of at that, that crux of do I do it? Do I not? You know, and that's an uncomfortable place to be when you know, you want to do it, and then your brain is kind of talking you out of it? Like, how, because how would I tell? So for me, it's like, well, then, if I don't do it, then it's accepting my the status quo where I am right now. It does that feel good? Right, right.
Yeah. Oh, the creative view is the name of the book, the journey to setting her free. Can you share this with anybody? It's Robin's story, and it's fantastic. So Robin is gonna stick around we got if you have questions for us, if you have one, too, what if up with us, I have a challenge for the week, before I lay down this week's challenge, tied to today's topic, quick announcements for our membership. Just a reminder that for those of you who are, maybe you want to join a local, what if up circle, but there's just not one in your area. This Saturday, we are doing our first circle leader training of the year. So you can sign up for that if you're interested in learning more just in the comments, give me a hashtag, circle leader or training. And I'll give you some information about how to join us Saturday for that. Also coming up January 20 is the kickoff for our brand new certification program. So if you're a coach or a speaker, or retreat facilitator or an organizational leader, and you want to bring this into your teams, and you want to get certified to do that, January 20, is when our training or certification training kicks off. And if you're interested in that, then give me like a hashtag certification in the comments. And I'll follow up with you on that as well. So lots of exciting, yes, and ition. For those people that might be on that aren't familiar with this at all. Mindy has a book called What if it all goes right? Do you have it right there, all this behind me? So
Robin Hackett 23:33
it's never far away? Never far away? No, no, no. Yeah. So her book, what if it all goes right? It's kind of where the all of the what if Wednesday is. So if you don't have an idea of what if it's all about?
Possibility. And we What if up? And a lot of people in our society tend to what if down? So they come up with an idea? And they go, Well, what if it doesn't work out? Well, what if this happens? What if it goes down, down, down? Down? What if upping is what? What are the possibilities of this manifesting of this happening? And so I just wanted to share that with people that might be on here that have no idea what what if what if up is? I love that? I love that? Because I guarantee you if your mind goes down that dark spiral of what if downing What if I can't What if this isn't the right time, then the next will go away? Yes, absolutely. And that will go away. And you're just keep doing what you do. And we just kind of get into unconscious cycle. So the way to break out of that cycle is to allow yourself to think in a broader, more expansive way. And that's what we do in we do it you know, here's the process. You can use it on your own, but when you use it in community, it is totally next levels. Yeah. All the next level. So the challenge for the week, and it's so funny, Robin, I have to tell you when I was thinking about this week's challenge
Mendhi Audlin 25:00
My first thought was, I should have everyone identify a bold action they could take, you know, that ties to their vision. And I'm like, identifying a bold action is not super bold.
I'm like, That seems kind of safe for a theme around bold action, it seems like maybe we should take a bold action. Yes, we should take the bold action, make the bold action. So that is the challenge of the week. For those of you in our community, if you're not at a community, join, like step one join. Org, we have a new app that has our community in it. And there are challenges there, just go to the challenges tab, and you will see this week's challenge. And then once you take that action, just you know, take a picture or post a video or just make a comment and let us know what happened. And what was the impact. So what did you do? And what was the impact so that we can start conditioning our brains to see that when we are courageous and take that scary step. Maybe it's scary. But as we start doing it, it gets less scary and it gets more exciting. Yes. And I do want to share with people a bold action doesn't have to be you know, it doesn't have to equate to moving across.
Robin Hackett 26:18
Whatever, whatever is scary for you, like I have,
there's a bold action that I want to take that involves a celebrity and I have fear around that. Like who am I to call this celebrity or get a hold of this celebrity. So it could be as simple as a phone call, like Mindy says, are you gonna do it? Are you gonna do it this week? Robin?
Mendhi Audlin 26:39
I am.
Robin Hackett 26:40
I am going to No, I'm not going to do it this week. And there's a reason why because I want to go over my screenplay a little bit more I can possibly do it this week, but I'd like to go over my screenplay a little bit more and get some more eyes on it before I send it. Okay, so maybe I can come up with one other bolt
Mendhi Audlin 27:01
I haven't since I've moved to the city I have not performed out take the action of finding a spot to perform and go and sing by January by January 15 Excellent. Yeah, I love that. Well for me it's about phone calls to is reaching out and letting people know about our certification program and putting myself out there because I tend to get very locked into very comfortable behind the seams and it's time it's about that time to get out and you know what else I'm going to do is I've just felt this like popped into my head is I'm going to
update my profile and for getting on some podcasts for I have this profile so I'm going to actually solicit some podcast guest spots as well. So those are my I'll make those two commitments for my bold action and we'll share it in the community once we once we take the action we can share what happened think about what you want to do and then do it just do it
thank you so much for being here I have this is from from Alex I think Robin You are such a joy honey
Ali's because I know she would call you honey
girl but I caught this yes yay Alex comments is so great inaction is a choice as well. Robin I reached out to a famous artists that I have been so inspired by for years and asked her to collaborate on Instagram. Ah I love that she knew me and was thrilled to do it and it went super viral. unbelievable for me. Yes, that is Alex is is sort of a role model for bold actions as well. So for me I
was drawn to this so that's the challenge and Robin I know you inspire me with your music share something I know you've got your guitar ready to help for those of us who are like okay, I'm there I'm on the edge and feeling kind of excited but what's gonna push me over the top a Robin Hood good sock.
Robin Hackett 29:09
sing the whole song but just the gist of it so and
yeah, I wrote this many years ago but it's still relevant. This is the moment
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Mendhi Audlin 32:03
Robin Hackett thank you for joining me for what
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Great What if uppers all around the world? Thank you for joining in thank you for sharing your comments. And happy new year you're still taking bold action in 2023
